theredbackpack: starting about the commence of the nba playoffs…

beginning about the begin of the nba playoffs up till about three weeks ago i was suffering by means of a pretty debilitating bout of agoraphobia. not like, locked in my house increasing a beard not cutting my nails agoraphobia. but the dictionary definition of it. i feared public locations, i feared getting around other individuals, and basic tasks like going to my job, going to a retailer, and driving became daunting endeavors. as considerably as it progressively snuck up on me, it also faded away. possibly it was the weekend i decided, final minute, to not go to chicago, which coincided with the news my dad was going to be out of town for two weeks. my residence, which was so cozy with my brother moving in and almost everything, was suddenly kinda cold. (my brother moved out in june.) i’m an old man and it is not like i have tiny siblings or something–the phrase “man of the house” is generally meaningless, except for the two days i did wake up early to take out the trash. nonetheless. you know all that “women and children” stuff? caveat: i know men are trash. i am possibly trash as well. but occasionally that talk tends to make me really feel a little disposable. i’m an able-bodied male in his later-20s. no one is going to really feel sorry for me that i don’t want to be out in public simply because an uncontrollable anxiety grips me that if i do not drive straight property at that precise moment anything unspeakably undesirable will happen. often it feels like, for lack of a better term, the politically right way a lot of people (particularly young folks) talk about mental illness–as a healthcare illness, like gout or something–isn’t anything individuals truly believe, simply because admit any kind of anxiousness or fear to the typical individual and they’ll hit you with that great-intentioned but eventually weak don’t worry about it, everything’s fine, nothing’s gonna take place, go for a stroll, exercising far more, get your eight hours. like i know all these items. but they do not aid when i’m basically alone in my workplace trying to figure out what i should do with myself at 7pm on a tuesday. calling my mom assists. but i don’t–and didn’t–tell her how bad it got. i dunno if i will, specifically now that i feel like that moment has passed. some thing i used to pride myself on “when i was younger” (dear god) was my independence. i often wanted to leave residence. i usually wanted to leave the city, the state. i was the one who wanted to do these issues, as opposed to my siblings. then it seemed like, maybe starting around 2013 or so, when getting unemployed and two years removed from graduation was no longer cute, that stuff began to slip away. i enjoyed my time at property, i enjoyed my household much more, the thought of getting much more than a 45-minute drive away from them at any given time was unthinkable. but. i been going by way of a adjust. in extremely actual, black and white genuine-ass adult grownup terms, last year, in 2015, the seed was planted in me, about the same time i rode on an airplane for the 1st time, that i really want to move. nyc is the most logical location for me, considering my profession path, but there is no vision i have of myself inside me that foresees enjoying that lifestyle. i appreciate the mobility of houston too significantly, the southern hospitality, the ability to get in my vehicle and go anywhere i want (though of course, this believed terrified me for about 3 months this year). as an alternative of being some far-off, willy wonka shit, i became so obsessed with an concept that my possibilities are: a) move out of my residence into an apartment across town, where my friends reside and it’s the heart of the city, or b) pack up and move across the nation. barring a sudden job offer, a) is certainly more probably and achievable. and, in case you are not a particular person on the getting finish of several text messages from me (or you have somehow missed the barrage of thoughts i’ve posted on the internet given that about the spring time), one thing actually unexpected happened. and no matter how i’ve tried to rationalize it away because, nothing at all tends to make sense other than staring down the truth in its face, and once i admit this to myself, it does kinda magically clarify everything that is been going on inside of me and then, to mess all this shit up about me, i consider i fell in enjoy. not even necessarily with a distinct particular person, even though there was one. i fell in enjoy with possibly feeling like i could feel love once again. i envisioned myself as not too long ago as like nine months ago, being that particular person in his late-20s who dates as like a recreation, a business choice, and when i met the proper particular person we’d almost go about it in a chaste [i completely imply that actually and figuratively] fashion. like i really thought that. but i felt some thing stir in me that was totally dead for years and years. it nearly tends to make me mad now to think about, because it was so obviously (now, i comprehend this) a mirage. but you know, sometimes you’re out with your buddy and unexpectedly fate or what ever slaps you in the face and there is. no. option. in. the. matter. you are overwhelmed. so overwhelmed in fact, that it distracts you from shit like, exactly where do i want to live to feel pleased/enlightened/fulfilled? suddenly there was a c) in my life: c), decide on to fall in enjoy and let the chips fall exactly where they might. it’s such a romantic concept (and god i don’t imply that like, cupid romantic) that you’re going to get swept up in this point and have it dictate your life. i believed i waved sayanara to that notion at 21. but it came back, and it came back challenging, so challenging, in reality, that 1 evening i named a really very good friend at 11pm due to the fact i was so overwhelmed with that feeling the only way i could express it was by crying. like, i had no words. when they asked me what was incorrect, i didn’t have an answer. i been going through a alter. i mean, there was an answer, but it wasn’t worth telling. 

maybe that triggered the agoraphobia i had. i was overwhelmed with the notion of getting overwhelmed. of becoming stuck on the freeway in a storm, which would make me vulnerable to a quantity of approaches to die (swept in flood waters, yes, but also, wild tigers). overwhelmed at perform, where my ideal pal had recently quit and my second ideal buddy was on maternity leave and i was essentially lonely all day. human relationships are so critical, no matter how i try to talk myself out of them. i have this overwhelming feeling of getting alone–not in this dumb, romantic, morrissey sense. but like, sitting at perform about 20 other people and feeling alone. being at a bar with pals and still feeling alone, for any number of motives. driving in my car, literally alone, but worse, feeling alone. you can really feel alone, down to the bone, and not be alone. i can really feel alone, in my room, whilst my mom and dad who really like me really significantly sit in the other room, not talking to each other, in reality, each of them kinda wishing they could speak to a person, and from an objective standpoint, that person would be me, except i. am. overwhelmed. and how i deal with it is watching sportscenter, then NBA Tv, then, because it is summer, i’ll catch the key league whiparound show on MLB Television. jose altuve is the AL MVP, bryce harper NL. chris sale reduce up his jersey because it wasn’t comfortable to pitch in. i thought that was so brave due to the fact i associated to the idea that i wouldn’t feel optimal. simply because i felt alone. because he felt like individuals weren’t listening to him. i worry getting alone, but i also worry getting in public. i fear complacency, due to the fact i am a sagittarius, but i also fear change. nothing tends to make me content. i hate essentially every single move i see. each and every album is a 6. i been going via a change. i imply there are worse fates, of course. and i’m not trying to be performatively emotional or something. i consider at the core of my existence is a malfunctioning…something, and in today’s vocabulary we’ll say mental illness, the very same point as eczema or anything, but only a few individuals really believe that, and the ones that don’t will never ever be convinced otherwise. the excellent news is, i feel i was going via an episode and now i’m coming out the other end of it. sremmlife two is ultimately here. in my private knowledge of 27 years, i believe i find out the most and the most viscerally by firsthand experiencing the issue. it is kind of a difficulty. i constantly feel like i’m not prepared, and that’s what this song is about. not feeling ready. not feeling anxious, or sad, or depressed, basically: not feeling prepared. not prepared to no longer worry anything. but i listen to it, and i temporarily lose that fear. i been going by way of a adjust.

A single WEEK // A single BAND

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